Adjusting to a New School: Tips for Parents and Kids
A new school can feel like an exciting adventure—or a nerve-wracking rollercoaster ride. Whether your child is transferring due to a move, a change in academic needs, or simply a fresh start, adjusting to unfamiliar hallways, teachers, and classmates can be overwhelming. But with the right approach, this transition can be smoother and even empowering for both kids and parents.
Here’s how you can help your child settle in with confidence—and how therapy can offer additional support when needed.
1. Normalize the Jitters
Feeling nervous about a new school is completely normal! Even adults feel apprehensive about starting a new job or moving to a new city. Help your child understand that their emotions—whether excitement, anxiety, or uncertainty—are valid.
Share stories about times when you had to adapt to something new.
Acknowledge their concerns while reassuring them that things will get easier.
Encourage a positive mindset by focusing on the fun aspects of a fresh start (new friends, new activities, new opportunities!).
2. Tour the School Ahead of Time
Walking into an unfamiliar environment can be intimidating. If possible, schedule a visit before the first day. This allows your child to:
See their classroom, cafeteria, and other key areas.
Meet their teacher(s) in advance.
Practice their route to and from school.
Familiarity breeds comfort, and a pre-visit can make that first day feel a lot less overwhelming.
3. Build a Routine Early
A consistent routine helps create a sense of stability amidst change. A week or two before school starts:
Adjust bedtime and wake-up schedules to match school hours.
Go over morning and after-school routines together.
Set up a dedicated homework space at home.
Having predictable patterns in place can reduce stress and help kids feel more in control of their day.
4. Encourage Social Connections
Making friends is one of the biggest concerns for kids starting at a new school. You can help by:
Encouraging them to join clubs, sports, or extracurricular activities.
Arranging playdates or meet-ups with other kids in the school (if possible).
Practicing conversation starters they can use to break the ice.
Remind them that friendships take time, and being open to new connections is key.
5. Keep Communication Open
Regular check-ins can help kids process their feelings and feel supported.
Ask open-ended questions like, “What was something fun you did today?”
Listen without immediately trying to ‘fix’ their worries.
Validate their feelings while reminding them that adjusting takes time.
6. Watch for Signs of Struggle
Some children adapt quickly, while others may need more time. Be on the lookout for signs that your child is having a harder time than expected, such as:
Frequent complaints of stomachaches or headaches before school.
Withdrawal from social activities.
Changes in appetite or sleep patterns.
Increased irritability or emotional outbursts.
If these issues persist, it may be time to seek additional support.
7. How Therapy Can Help
If your child is experiencing prolonged anxiety, fear, or difficulty adjusting, therapy can be a valuable resource. A therapist can help by:
Providing tools to manage anxiety and build confidence.
Offering a safe space for kids to express their emotions.
Teaching social skills to improve peer interactions.
Assisting parents in navigating the transition effectively.
Sometimes, just having an outside perspective can make all the difference in helping kids feel empowered in their new environment.
Embracing the New Adventure
Adjusting to a new school is a journey—but with patience, encouragement, and the right strategies, your child can thrive. Change can be scary, but it can also lead to exciting new opportunities and personal growth.
If your child is struggling with the transition, don’t hesitate to seek support. Therapy can be a helpful tool in easing anxiety and building resilience. After all, every great adventure starts with a little courage—and a lot of support.
